DB 6

Chapter 11: Watch Dr. Gottman describe The Four Horseman (9:59)

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Answer the following questions:

1. What information stood out for you from the video?
2. What advice would you give to romantic partners so they can be “masters” and not “disasters?”
3. What can couples do to prevent meeting the Four Horsemen?
4. Gottman stated that repair work is the “sine qua non” of relationships, and that the quality of the friendship, intimacy, emotional connection and creation of shared meaning and purpose are important for couples to be “masters.” Do you agree with these statements? Why or why not?
5. Be sure to include terms from the chapter to help support your claims.

Chapter 12: Defensiveness implies protecting ourselves from a perceived threat. The universal tendency is to try to “save face” by defending our presenting self when we perceive that it has been attacked by what social scientists call face-threatening acts. Frequently, this creates a climate that leads to a negative defensive spiral.

For this DB, you will do the following:

1. Identify two different times when you perceived that you were under attack and responded by using one of the Gibb defensive categories. Briefly describe each situation and your response.
2. Identify the Gibb category you used.
3. Describe how you might have otherwise responded in order to create a more positive and supportive climate.
4. Analyze your defensive behavior. In general, do you consider yourself a “defensive” person? Why or why not? Are there certain topics that tend to trigger your defensiveness? Are there certain people with whom you are more defensive than normal?
5. Be sure to include terms from the chapter to help support your claims

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Extra Credit Assignment This is an optional assignment. If you complete this assignment, you may earn up to 10 points extra-credit. Only completed assignments will be graded. That is, you must watch all three videos and answers each of the questions. Incomplete posts will receive no credit.

Assignment:

• This assignment requires proper essay format: introduction, body and conclusion.
• The body of the essay should consist of three separate paragraphs (one for each video).
• Do not use the questions in your post.
• Check grammar and spelling before posting.
• You can type your response in to the text-box or post a link to your Word .doc or .docx
• If you post a file, put your firstname.last name.120L in the file name
• If you post a link to your paper that cannot be opened, you will receive a “0” (i.e., .pages, .odt)
• Total Word Count: 700-750 words.

Watch each video. Take notes to help you answer the questions.

Video 1: Body Language

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1. What are some examples of nonverbal expressions of power and dominance?
2. How do our nonverbal govern how we think and feel about ourselves?
3. What is “power posing”? Give examples of powerful and powerless poses.
4. “Tiny Tweaks can lead to big changes”— what is the speaker referring to here? Explain the “two minutes”
5. Include at least one reference to Chapter 6 in this section

Video 2: Listening

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1. How much time do we spend listening?
2. How much do we retain?
3. What are the reasons for “losing hearing”
4. What does listening allow us to access or give us access to?
5. What are the five ways to listen better?
6. Include at least one reference to Chapter 7 in this section

Video 3: Emotional Hygiene

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1. What are psychological injuries?
2. How do we treat these injuries?
3. What types of “wounds” do we deal with?
4. What does the presenter say about making changes?
5. What is poor emotional hygiene?
6. Include at least one reference to Chapter 8 in this section